Hy Divas,today is going to be a little bit different. I would start with these short story.

"Life was going on well,everyone seemed to be at peace with the other and have decided to live as one big family.Even though Eva didn't like the idea,but what could she do,her dad had made it clear he didn't want them anymore,kicked she and her mom out of the house and brought in these new woman.She and her mom had managed this long,hard 5 years,hoping a miracle would come knocking and here was one,her mom has finally found this bizarre happiness with Uncle Fred and he has promised to take care of them and here she was being ungrateful.Uncle Fred did a little celebration wasn't a marriage ceremony per say and now they are moving in with him.She should be more than grateful but his also a divorcee with 2 grown up boyz...John and Ted,and something doesn't feel right about this family.But what could she do her mom seemed happy, so she had to share in it, yea!she was choiceless here.

    Days rolled into weeks, and weeks into months and Uncle Fred was actually trying to make sure they never lacked and her step-brothers acted nicely with her, so she gradually settled properly into her new home,she was done wit Wassce,and she was waiting to register for her Jamb since Uncle Fred said she would continue with her education and join her step -brothers in the higher institute,she couldn't wait.Exactly six months since the wedding,she noticed her fears were right,at first she didn't see it as anything until it became a normal occurance..She was already a grown lady,with a light skin and looked exactly like her mom,very pretty.She was well endowed,and had everything in the right proportion,at first,the compliments she got whenever she stepped out of the house were embarassing,but with time she got used to it but what she couldn't get used to was her step-brothers smacking her butt or touching her boobs every now and then and when she confronts them they would just laugh and say "we are just playing Sis"...

   She thought of telling her mom but she dismissed it,it sure hasn't gotten to that.."she thought"..These continued for another 2 months.The holidays were all done and John had to go back to school,while Ted was still sorting his IT space out so he would be at home for some while.She sure would miss John and she didn't hesitate to tell him so.John left for school that weekend.The next week,Uncle Fred and her mom where to travel for a vacation and they were going to spend a week, so it was just she and Ted alone, their parents decided they were old enough to take care of themselves.
Ted do take care of your sister we would be back in a weeks time;said uncle Fred....Aii,Dad...sure will ,or rather she would because I won't be doing D cooking, she will. ( they all laughed,including Ted )

 Well you better get ready to starve;replied Eva(still smiling) You guys had better take care of yourselves;said mrs fred,we love u,bye.We definitely will,bye mom..bye dad;replied Ted and Eva. 

        And that was the beginning of her doom,2 days later it rained heavily,they had dinner and she noticed the way Ted stared at her but she put the thought out,she did the dishes, set everything in order and got ready to make for the bed.She had her bath, and entered her room only to find Ted sitting at the edge of the bed.

Are you okay,Ted?;asked Eva..Yes I am;replied ted rubbing his arms;everywhere is just cold and lonely;he continued.Well,our parents would soon be back;eva stated;it's just for a short while and why don't you make use of your duvet,since your very cold;she finished..Can I just stay with you for a while before I go to bed;asked Ted.Even though she didn't like the idea because this was the first time he had entered her room and stayed this long,she couldn't chase him either...Okay;Eva mumbled...She had to change into her nighties in the bathroom as her step brother was in her room but just then the door of the bathroom was opened,it was Ted.What in heavens was wrong with this guy...Ted am using the bathroom;she exclaimed,I know sis..said ted driedly..You know and you still came in,please do excuse me,;said Eva as she pointed towards the door..But instead he came closer looking at her in a scary way,she made for the door herself but he was very fast,he got lay of her and his breath was very hard.

Calm down,sis...As he made for her towel...get your hands off me;shouted Eva,Wat has come over you..He just smiled and still went for her towel,along the line as she was struggling to pull off,her towel fell to the floor,and that just aggriviated the whole thing,all of a sudden, he developed this strength, carried her to the bedroom laid her on the bed,and raped her even with the pleas Eva made,she discovered he was smelling of marijuana and his eyes were now bloodshot.He raped her over and over until she had no strength left to even shout or fight anymore,she became weak and gradually passed out.Ted just stood up and went to his room leaving her there.

The beams of the sun woke her up and as she tried to get up she felt pain all over her body and noticed she was sore ,jst then the scene of last night played over again in her head,she hated Ted with everything she felt within her,and he didn't even act like anything was wrong.He kept on abusing her till their parents where back and threatened to deal with her should she tell anyone. Eva had to leave with that scar till she got married without telling anyone about it..she grew up to hating herself, thinking low about herself,hating everyone and anything that comes her way and life wasn't very rosy for her anymore...
So many of us out there are like Eva,we might have been sexually abused by step-brothers, step-fathers,friends,even our fathers etc,and we just can't let go of the hate inside us..Whats your relationship with yourself?Do you feel you are so useless,stupid, a nobody and you can't do anything useful with YOURSELF?The answer comes in 2 ways:it's your choice.
You can think that way,and never make anything out of yourself, and lead a sad life or you can decide not to dwell on that and blame no one,not even yourself for what happened..you can decide to forgive and start life on a different page and prove to life that because your bent doesn't make you broken.Its painful but what's more painful..dwelling on the abuse and letting it kill you or moving away from it not by faking happiness but by doing what makes you truly happy.
Talk to someone you can trust about it,don't bear the burden alone,it could be your mom,sister,best friend,pastor,etc anybody you know you can trust,that's how you get help,seek counselling if possible,try to avoid the environment so as not to be reminded about the ugly incidence...Or do you feel rejection?you think everyone hates you,my dear God loves you more than you love yourself, so that 1 yes should be enough..Get into healthy organizations,forgive yourself thoroughly, and never bring it up again...the truth is when you reject yourself that's when the world reject you but when you accept yourself,love yourself and stay strong, you realise everybody wants to know you or have you in their lives as friends, you contribute a quota to the well being of your society so don't let anything hinder you....LOVE YOURSELF LIKE NO ONE ELSE EVER EXISTED DEAR...and invite GOD into your life and see things change for your good..I myself Love you so much and I expect you should love yourself in that manner too..
Don't ever forget that,your opinion is what really matters in your life and not what others think about you..always have a positive mindset and an interesting relationship with yourself...YOU should be the one to decide what happens and what doesnt..and if you are still abused 1 way or the other including domestic violence,please do speak up.talk to someone about it and like I said someone you trust don't suffer alone,no WOMAN or LADY deserves to be abused no matter what..And our mothers be very careful with these re-marrying thing especially when you know you have children,don't get wrapped up in yourself alone,try to know what's happening in your children life's,don't neglect them because you want to be happy also know there weren't the cause of your failed marriage, try to ask for their opinions too...And i pray God gives a positive mind and strengthens everyone out there especially the females that have been through one abuse or the other..AMEN.
Hope to hear your comments soonest,have a fulfilled day.

Am sorry i have been out for sometime now due to some personal issues,but I sure missed you all...And I'll try to get in touch no matter what..well today is our beauty tip day and seriously if we are talking about beauty and we don't talk about this particular topic then our beauty is incomplete.
                           THE INNER BEAUTY:
Have you looked at yourself in the mirror and thought to yourself"I used to be more prettier than these"...well yes it happens atimes, over time, some of us begin to lose our beauty not because you don't take care of yourself or take your necessary vitamins but because your mind is affected..You can't keep a beautiful look if your mind ain't beautiful...Sometimes it's funny how some ladies whom you can't actually say they are pretty just look beautiful like there is something about them,right?well yea,and that's because they have a beautiful mind..How do you keep a beautiful mind?it's simple stay happy..Happy people are the most beautiful people and they are contagious..you cant afford to stay around them and remain the way you are.They influence the ones around them positively..they smile a lot,they have a high self esteem about themselves,they carry this grace you can't beat it.
                                    
There is nothing as beautiful and divine as a smile from the innermost part of your heart..It could heal a wounded soul.It makes you look younger and healthier,but when you accumulate much hate,anger, bitterness,rage,depression etc it kills you from the inside and you can never be happy.You think negatively,you shut people out,,you keep to yourself and talk to no one than yourself which is not healthy,it could have a negative effect on your brain and you begin to lose it,but sweetheart nothing is worth you being unhappy,be it your business,family,relationship, friends,work,an annoying boss trust me nothing absolutely.You owe it to yourself to be happy so you can radiate that beauty owtwardly. Do fun things, hang out with happy friends who could reach out to your soul,don't always schedule your life alongside the all known calendar,try something different, visit places,especially the ones that potray the beauty of nature.

Listen to good music,they say music are like medicine to the soul,so listen to the good ones.Laugh always even when there isn't a reason to laugh,maybe a butterfly flys past you or a bird and you see it, just imagine how beautiful it was and laugh,make sure it's from the innermost part,there is no need crying over spilt milk,we all have our lives to live so don't keep dwelling in the past.Think positive, be happy,reach out to nature,help other people that are in need it makes you appreciate yourself the more and realise how lucky you are even in that situation you think it's very ugly and bad,,keep good and happy friend and see yourself transform in no time from ugly to beautiful and much younger and healthier.
                                    
Smile always and be happy,be happy,be happy be happy!!!!!

                      STAYING HEALTHY:BENEFITS OF DRINKING WATER
HELLO!!another health section,what's the essence of life if your not healthy?I think we all know the answer..you can't be on a hospital bed and rock your designers,neither would you ride your latest collection of cars... So it's important to stay healthy, and the good news is you don't really need to stress much to stay healthy,just a little touch here and there and you are good to go....I need a glass of water, I'll be right back!
                                    
Heeeyy!I found a bottle instead of a glass, makes it even better... Now, that was enough to stay healthy. Water is a very essential substance we need in life, infact,Water is said to be "LIFE"....And it's very common to get, water is only gotten from water,no other source...soft drinks,beverages,coffee etc,don't give you water instead it steals tremendous amount of water from the body.It is said that water could serve as miracle cure for certain ailment such as headache,fatigue,pain,etc.Taking water always and especially first thing in the morning immediately you wake up without eating anything for the next 40-45mins is more like a blessing to your soul,and it should be a regular practice,it keeps you healthy and you notice you don't fall ill as usual.
Water makes up 80% of our blood,80% of our brain and 70% of our lean muscle,lack of water in the body could be bad as it leads to dehydration,it could trigger daytime fatigue,while 2% drop in body water could lead to frizzy short term memory and difficulty in focusing on the computer screen or a printed page.
                           
Benefits of water:
The level of oxygen in our bloodstream increases when the body is well hydrated.A normal person is supposed to consume 1.5litres of water per day.The threshold of drinking water enables to balance water loss and keeps one's body properly hydrated.
• Water is a carrier, it distributes essential nutrients like proteins,vitamins,etc to the cells of the body.
• Water removes waste products from the body such as toxins and heavy metals in form of urine and faeces,atimes through sweat.
• Water has a large heat capacity,it serves as a regulator which helpls limit changes in body temperature in a warm or cold environment.it allows the body to release heat when ambient tempertaure is higher than body temperature.
• Water serves as an effective lubricant around the joints,it also acts as a shock absorber for eyes,brain,spinal cord and even the foetus through amniotic fluid.
• Water keeps your skin glowing when your body is constantly hydrated.
There is a long list of the benefits of water and i could keep going on and on...But with these little we have gotten to understand  water is very important and lack of water could lead to body crisis..So of i were you i would be screaming for Water!water!!water!!!at the top of my lungs because that cheap commodity is actually a life changer..Make early morning intake of water a habit,you could start with a glass until you graduate from just 1 glass to 2 glasses and let the benefits keep rolling...but for the records grab a cup of water now and gulp down like your life depends on it*...well i dont need to emphasis on that because the weather is doing a better job than i am..lolz..Enjoy the rest of your day and step up to the water challenge..hippeee!!!

      ITS OUR FASHION DAY:"MY CLOTHING MY EVERYTHING"

Wow!if there was anything like another world I sure still want to remain a woman..I can't afford to miss out on all this feelings,trust me am gonna keep being a woman over and over again..o!yea..U heard me right,as a woman I love my wardrobe,I love my shoes,infact whatever that qualifies me as a woman am a fan..#hands up#..Lolz.

And I know you all agree with me,every day we try new things from our wardrobes,combination is now the order of the day..patterns,colours, stripe,poka dots etc..every single outfit we thought was odd seem to be the better option these days.. I love heels as much as I love my sneakers or "boyfriends shoes",etc...these days so many patterns are blending together and it makes fashion more fun.Well today is Monday,the official day,first day at work, corporate attire....ughh!atimes I'll just sit and picture a boss's face when 1 of his workers shows up with a T shirt, ripped jeans and a sneaker to work not to talk of a Monday morning...honey you are so fired..Lolz or you get a day off with plenty of lectures on how to dress corporately..I love corporate, it makes you look decent,classy and all bossy.....

                                     

                               

And our choice of colours are so gracious,you just want to be a workaholic all your life,not me though!..Lolz...you could also have a feel of a blazers,a pencil skirt,and a short sleevless chiffon top...with a set of lovely accessories to match and a killing shoe...oh!I hate to imagine myself in that when am wearing something contrary to it...Talking of patterns...

                               

I love these wonderful combinations,and am so looking forward to wearing a striped top wit a poka dot skirt...I know I'll look wonderful in it with killing shoes and a bag to match, and another thing I love...hairs!!which girl doesn't#smiles#..so let's see your comments on some patterns you won't dare to wear and the 1nes you would be so confident to rock...Drop your comments below,have a splendid day..#muah#,enough time for me to drool over these outfits..

                WHATS YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD:SEASON OF THANKSGIVING
Am sorry this post is getting to you late,I promise we won't miss out on any episode anymore.We all christians and we all claim to be children of God but as his child what's your relationship with your father like?...I could remember back then when I would wake up stretch and go about my daily activities and be so ignorant of acknowledging the 1 who made it possible for me to even get off my bed..Thats bad,a lot of us Christians are guilty of that and we would end up saying don't worry he understands..Well I don't seem to get what part of what his supposed to understand in that, we just are lucky his mercies are ever there to speak for us but we ought to understand he deserves Thanksgiving and this is the perfect season for Thanksgiving.. the season of Easter.
  Most of us, don't understand what Easter signifies,we all go home to be with our loved ones to us it's a period for celebration..yea!quite alright but what are we celebrating..oops!lites out.
Easter marks the period at which Christ died for humanity for the love he had for us even when we were yet sinners,he took away our transgressions and our old man and nailed it to the cross.well that sounds like 1 sentence anyone can make but there is a magnitude to that 1 sentence..The first Adam was made into an already existing paradise,he had everything under his power he was asked to have dominion over it all,but due to ignorance he lost control and handed his authority to the devil and man became a slave to the devil, we we're subjected to sin,poverty, affliction etc..but Christ came and in a time like this he died for us, he went to hell and shut the gates of hell and left our sinful nature there that we may not have any reason to go to hell again and he arose on the third day in his might and glory and handed the keys of hell and his power to us, we been made a new being and a new man(2 cor 5:17),and gave us all that we lost to the devil.

Halleluyah!now that is a thing of joy..that means we have power over death and sin (Heb 2:14-16  Matt 16:19)..(Rev 1:17-18).Christ gave us the newness of life and the righteousness of God through Christ Jesus(Romans 4:1-7)..Maybe you still dont understand,our old us had sin,was subjected to sickness,poverty,strife,name it but immediately christ died for our sake the tables turned..Once you identify with Christ knowing his your personal Lord and saviour,immediately you become a new person free from anything your old you might have been battling with,he died that we may have life and get it in abundance,now thats huge..and yet we still dont recognise how much of a sacrifice he made for us in this period...I as a human i sometimes require a "thank you" if i do some certain things for you how much more that of someone who willingly died for you..if understanding these and you still don't think he deserves our Thanksgiving these period then it would be right if i say your worse than the devil because even the devil understands these principle..So let's use this season to our advantage, make your supplication known to God,Praise and worship him and learn the attitude of Thanksgiving in this season and allow God bless you tremendously..Amen!!

                   DID YOU STRETCH THIS MORNING:JOGGING AND FITNESS 
I would have remained at home all cosy and decked up,than deciding to jog after skipping it for how long.Now I can't feel my legs am so going to sleep all through..Dont mind me i was kidding,but seriously some of us ladies dont understand the benefits of exercising,stretching and keeping fit...Its a healthy practise and yet some of us arent religious about it,now thats where i come in,am also guilty of that... while some dont even practice it at all.                  
                       
                                 
Jogging as an exercise has many benefits:
                  It benefits you mentally,physically and socially,infact it reaches to your mind,body and spirit.Everyone knows exercises promotes weight loss but jogging does just more than Weight loss.It makes you maintain your weight also.And about the mental,social and physical benefits:
Physically,jogging makes you keep fit, your stamina increases making you feel confident about yourself.
Mentally,jogging enables the release of endorphins into your body and blood making you feel a bit calmer and happier.this helps in relieving stress.
Socially,when your calmer and happier, it benefits people around you.You find yourself relating better with people,infact jogging improves your emotional state happiness.so you can agree with me that there's a lot benefit to jogging than just weight loss.
                                      
      Jogging is a steady intense aerobics that increases your lungs capacity by sending enough oxygen into the lungs for it's activities.it also decreases the risk of high blood pressure,and heart disease...Your no longer at risk of having a heart disease because jogging helps in burning excessive fat and cholesterol that would have blocked the arteries that sends blood into the heart.Jogging also makes you look younger and your skin looks healthier and glows because it makes you feel dehydrated and there is much intake of water on your side..if I keep going on and on,someone would hop into the field right now for a 30mins jog..Lolz,this is just to mention but a few benefits so why don't you make it a habit starting from today..Its no biggie if your obesed,fat or slim or skinny or whicheva size,and for those who think they are slim already so what do I need jogging for..well sweetheart if your already slim still hop on the treadmill or jog because you won't be losing any additional weight since there is no fat to burn but instead you build your stamina and muscle mass and still get the benefits of looking younger and healthier and for those who are chubby like me,yea!pardon me if I refuse to use the word "Fat"..hahahahaha,you can be certain of weight loss if you jog consistently and feel more confident about your body and yourself,but trust me your amazing the way you are,so no excuse, make it a habit today..have a blessed week ahead and make sure you go to church tomorrow... Have fun...Don't forget to comment too...Thanks.

Hmmm!yimmu!!yummy!!!..don't wonder why am exclaiming because you all would join me soon..Good morning Divas,,,,where are they at these time of the day?Hmmm!did I perceive something?yea!and it's coming from........"The Kitchen".
Lolz,I like the kitchen so much and every woman should also love that department of your home,well for me it ain't because I love cooking...hell no!don't judge me jor,I just like it because I can't leave there with an empty stomach,hahahahahaha..There must always be something to eat and for today's section we would be looking at how to make one of our too many delicacies...infact I love my country because the delicacies are too many from our different tribes and I must try some if not all.So what do we have in the goody bag?lemme check....
 PLANTAIN PORRIDGE:
This delicacy leaves my mouth watering every single time and that's not fair but am quite sure am not alone in these,it's a food prepared by the south south and the south east too,although they might have different ways to prepare it,but we would take it 1 step at a time.

INGREDIENTS:
 1. 3 plantains
 2. Palm oil(desired quantity of your choice )
 3. Cray fish(if so desired)
 4. Onion
 5. Fresh pepper
 6. Salt
 7. Seasoning cube
 8. Cow tail or dried catfish(whichever you prefer)
 9. Scent leaves(sliced)
10.Periwinkle (shelled,it's preferable,makes it more of the south south dish).
             HOW TO PREPARE IT
As for me, I like preparing everything I need first before I start the cooking.
Peel the plantain, slice it slanting like it's for frying but it should be a deep cut so it's bigger than the frying cut.You could also slice it round,depends on your choice afterall cooking should be something you enjoy and explore so you can try new things out.slice the onion,blend your fresh pepper and crayfish, wash the periwinkle thoroughly to avoid sand,wash the cowtail with warm water and salt,or the fish whichever you are using.wash the scent leaf and slice it too.Now am set to start cooking and you should be to.
STEPS:
1. Wash the sliced plaintain of your desired shape and boil,the water shouldn't be too much.
2. Boil the cow tail in a different pot until it's soft.
3. When the plantain is soft enough add the cow tail to the plantain and pour in your oil and allow to boil.
4. Add your onion,fresh pepper and crayfish and allow to boil too(at this point if your using the fish this is the point you add it so it doesn't scatter and you won't be able to see it when your dishing the meal).
5. Turn it very well,add salt and your seasoning cube to your taste,and allow for some minutes.
6. Add Ur periwinkle and scent leaf lastly,turn it so it blends well and bring your pot down,because our meal is ready.
    Don't forget a glass of cold water or drink,yummy!!ain't it?Well enjoy your meal while we get ready for another episode in our kitchen next week Friday.And please if your tribe also prepares this dish in a different way be free to share with us because we are eager to learn,I in particularly, Lolz,I want to learn how to make all the dishes in Nigeria so feel free to share with us..Have a blissful weekend,TGIF!!!.